The outcome most of us would like from counseling is usually peace in our heart, better relationship with those close to us, and our needs both physical and emotional met in a fulfilling way. These are good desires but will become the byproduct of a life yielded selflessly to serve others as the goal for the outcome of counseling.
Some of the happiest people on earth are those that can serve others without thinking of themselves while they do so. The reason that we cannot serve in that way is usually because we are in too much emotional pain ourselves. Because of that hurt we start to focus on ourselves either; because the pain is too great, or we try to keep ourselves safe from getting hurt even more. From this self-focus we have a hard time even seeing anyone else around us much less the problems that they need help with.
The true help in counseling will get the hurts, guilt, self-hatred, and condemnation dealt with. We will then we able to notice and give of ourselves selflessly to that hurting world around us made up of our spouse, family, and those close to us. Only then can we experience the joyful fulfillment of a life of service.
First Things First
As we seek the order of the process of counseling, the first and most important issue to be looked at is the issue of emotional pain from past to current. Pain or the need to keep from having that pain added to in our lives then causes some of the problems that become insurmountable leaving us in a quandary or numb as to where to go, or what to do from here. This counseling will seek to understand each event of pain to date and explain how the pain is there, and then give direction in prayer, inviting Jesus into each event and asking Him to make sense of the event, answer questions ask, and ultimately bring peace to that painful event so that it no longer has any memory. As this is taking place this counseling is also teaching complete dependence on the still small voice of the Holy Spirit and His promptings and not dependence on the counseling or counselor.
Then the Rest
As the emotional pain is being understood, as explained in the previous paragraph, and in the events that caused it, we will then dispense of guilt, shame, condemnation, heaviness, self-hatred, bitterness, accusations of the enemy, and feelings of worthlessness. This counseling with the guidance of the Holy Spirit must bring in these issues to finish doing business with your creator and invite the completeness of peace to the clients’ heart.
More Q & A
Q. Are you an ordained pastor? Are you under the authority of a church? A. Yes I am an ordained pastor. My senior pastor is Daniel Dovido and my church home is Westcliffe Community Church of Westcliffe CO.
Q. Is this Psychological counseling? A. This is biblical counseling for the heart, where pain is and where sin begins. I want us to understand from our heads (psyche) enough to get to the heart for permanent healing.
Q. How do I get started? A. To save many hours of talking to get to know each other I will set up a confidential online BCPE evaluation. You can take this evaluation from your own home if you have a computer and Internet. Then at the same time I will give you dates that I have open to meet. I am usually not more than 3-6 months behind. Once we have met in counsel I will help you make corrections if you get off track as much as is needed until those skills are developed.
Q. How do you go about counseling? How much time will it take? A. I require a couple to spend four full days, both morning and afternoon with a couple and have them stay at a location away from their world, interruptions, and just emotionally grow back together. Individuals will require 3 full days. There are times when we finish early but I will devote the full time as a counselor so that I do not short you.
Q. What are your fees? Or how do you get paid? A. I do not have any fees but I want to handle this subject with the utmost of care for both my family and all clients. This ministry is my full time work. I want to continue to counsel the rest of my life God willing I love what I do. I have some support from our church. Some financial encouragement comes from clients from the past that give monthly, bimonthly, sporadically, or yearly. I do not ever want to leave any one without help, nor do I ever want to look to the clients as to what they can give. It is most refreshing to take all my needs to the Lord as my source and then let Him prompt, as He wants. Thank you for your understanding and concern in this matter.
Q. What is the best way to communicate with you as a counselor? A. E-mail works best for me for initiation, minor issues and general questions. To set up a time to talk about deeper issues it is best to e-mail or phone for a time. Then we can work by phone or in person as much time as is needed. Even if that works best for me, Please contact me the way it works best for you!